Men Don't Need Sex

It drives me almost to the point of Lorena Bobbit crazy when I hear a man excuse sexual misconduct by saying "men have needs."  That's the equivalent of saying the penis controls the male brain, that males are incapable of intelligent thought because their penis prevents it.  And they have the audacity to treat women as inferior to them?  My vagina doesn't override my better judgement.

Humans need a lot of things. We need air to breathe, food to eat, water to drink, cloths to keep us warm and shelter. We even need to be loved.  We don't need to have sex with everything and everyone in sight.

The truth is that intelligent human beings do not need sex as frequently as our male/penis dominated society leads us to believe. Sex, by it's nature, is a biological necessity for procreation, but our enjoyment of casual sex can, thanks to our intellect, be something we can control.  In other words, if you're promiscuous, it isn't that you're fulfilling a biological need.  It's that you're a slut with no self control and should be ashamed of yourself.

I want to have more faith in humanity than humanity seems willing to give itself.  An act as intimate as sex should have a deeper meaning to the participants other than they were just in the mood.  Sex should be an act performed in love by two people who are committed to each other and in a committed relationship even if that commitment doesn't have a state issued marriage license.  It should not be performed with anyone who happens to be around at the time you want it and it should NEVER be taken by force.

The idea that promiscuity is human nature is laughable and disgusting.  We're smarter than that.  We have the ability to retrain ourselves from doing a lot of things.  Raping someone or cheating on your partner are two of those things. We don't have to do them.  You don't have the need to do them.

We need to understand the difference between a need and a want and stop letting our desires control our lives.  Promiscuity and it's acceptance is why we have an epidemic of STDs.  It's the main reason why we have abortions.  Promiscuity is telling the world that you have ne respect for yourself or your body, that you must be trash because you treat your body like trash.  If you don't want to be trash, have enough respect for yourself to not be a slut.

I'm not saying don't have sex or no sex until marriage or that promise rings are a good idea.  I'm not saying all men are dogs and promiscuity is a crime committed by both sexes.  I am saying that if you're going to have sex, you should have sex RESPONSIBLY.  Sleeping around because of some misguided belief that you can't go a week without sex is not responsible behavior.

Be a better person than that.

Christianity & Islam: Pretty Much The Same

After a close comparison of Christianity and Islam, weighing the differences against the similarities, I have come to the conclusion that Christianity and Islam are basically the same religion.

They both have similar themes, similar ideology such as women's roles in society and there is no God save the one promoted by their particular religion.  They both steadfastly maintain that they and they alone are God's chosen people.  They both rely heavily on really old holy books that often share the same stories.  They both exalt a prophet as a representative of God.

The just call these things different names.  God vs Allah, but Allah is simply the Arabic word for God.  Muhammad vs Jesus, but both were men in flesh who lived in the same historical era.  Though Christianity, perhaps as a one up on Islam, believes Jesus was the physical son of God where as Islam believes Mohammad was a prophet/spokesperson for God, but acknowledges he was human.

In truth, the only REAL difference between the two religions is that Christianity has evolved and changed as humanity has evolved and changed while Islam as remained stagnant.  Christianity has grown as our understanding of the world has grown while Islam refuses to grow period.

If we look closely at early Christianity, we see a world that is EXACTLY like the one we now so readily criticize in modern Islam.  Every time a Christian condemns something done in Islam today whether it's jihad or the idea that women are property without rights, they are actually condemning something they themselves used to do.  The crusades were a Christian jihad.  Women in the Christian world were only allowed to own property or vote as little as a century ago.

So knowing that the two came from the same place, why hate eachother so much?  Are Christians really so disgusted by their own pasts they can't bare to recognize it?  Are they so loathe to acknowledge their own shortcomings?  Are Muslims jealous that Christianity's malleable nature has given it more commercial and financial success? Christian nations are more successful, more likely to be first world nations as compared to Islamic ones.  Christian nations tend to be more stable while Islamic ones exist in a state of perpetual war (often with itself).  Maybe Islamists feel left out of the good life?

The point is, we are of the same stuff.  We are not strangers. We are cousins of the same family.  And we shouldn't kill our own families.  So I would like to take this opportunity to ask members of each side to reach out to your cousins and TALK.  Get to know them.  Understand them.  Make friends.

I don't think God/Allah will hold being nice to someone against you.