Men Don't Need Sex

It drives me almost to the point of Lorena Bobbit crazy when I hear a man excuse sexual misconduct by saying "men have needs."  That's the equivalent of saying the penis controls the male brain, that males are incapable of intelligent thought because their penis prevents it.  And they have the audacity to treat women as inferior to them?  My vagina doesn't override my better judgement.

Humans need a lot of things. We need air to breathe, food to eat, water to drink, cloths to keep us warm and shelter. We even need to be loved.  We don't need to have sex with everything and everyone in sight.

The truth is that intelligent human beings do not need sex as frequently as our male/penis dominated society leads us to believe. Sex, by it's nature, is a biological necessity for procreation, but our enjoyment of casual sex can, thanks to our intellect, be something we can control.  In other words, if you're promiscuous, it isn't that you're fulfilling a biological need.  It's that you're a slut with no self control and should be ashamed of yourself.

I want to have more faith in humanity than humanity seems willing to give itself.  An act as intimate as sex should have a deeper meaning to the participants other than they were just in the mood.  Sex should be an act performed in love by two people who are committed to each other and in a committed relationship even if that commitment doesn't have a state issued marriage license.  It should not be performed with anyone who happens to be around at the time you want it and it should NEVER be taken by force.

The idea that promiscuity is human nature is laughable and disgusting.  We're smarter than that.  We have the ability to retrain ourselves from doing a lot of things.  Raping someone or cheating on your partner are two of those things. We don't have to do them.  You don't have the need to do them.

We need to understand the difference between a need and a want and stop letting our desires control our lives.  Promiscuity and it's acceptance is why we have an epidemic of STDs.  It's the main reason why we have abortions.  Promiscuity is telling the world that you have ne respect for yourself or your body, that you must be trash because you treat your body like trash.  If you don't want to be trash, have enough respect for yourself to not be a slut.

I'm not saying don't have sex or no sex until marriage or that promise rings are a good idea.  I'm not saying all men are dogs and promiscuity is a crime committed by both sexes.  I am saying that if you're going to have sex, you should have sex RESPONSIBLY.  Sleeping around because of some misguided belief that you can't go a week without sex is not responsible behavior.

Be a better person than that.